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Winner's Gold from Personal Garbage
Have you noticed how everybody takes it for granted a bad
experience is automatically, unreservedly, unremittingly bad?
That nothing good could ever come from a bad childhood, for
example?
I'm hearing the comment more and more often that we have become
a victim society. Maybe this is true? Consider...
Don't we hear these comments a lot? I was mistreated when I was
a child... I was a lonely latchkey kid... My ancestors got a bad
break, so I'm... I lived in a poor, disadvantaged family... I
grew up in a broken home... I didn't get the proper
advantages... I was constantly criticized as a child...
Every one of these comments sounds a lot like self-pity, like "I
can't be helped because I've been scarred beyond reclaim."
Well, maybe all of the bare facts are true, but isn't it time to
start looking for the positives that are buried in all that
negative stuff?
Example: I was mistreated when I was a child... ...and as a
result, I learned to be a survivor and to resist all efforts to
crush my spirit. Sure I had some hard times back then, but now,
I'm both tough and sensitive. I didn't learn self esteem then,
but I've learned it as an adult, and I understand people better
for it.
Example: I was a latchkey kid... ...and everyone treated me like
an abandoned orphan. But it was great. My dad and mom fought all
the time, so coming home to a quiet house was a wonderful break,
and I loved it.
See what I'm getting at here?
You have the right to take any piece of your personal history
and reinterpret it to your advantage rather than to your
detriment. You can find ways to turn your past to your own good.
Studies have shown that many children who grow up insecure tend
to be unusually self-reliant as adults.
You don't HAVE to be filled with resentment, anger or
helplessness. You COULD choose to feel something more pleasant,
at least part of the time. And if you did choose to feel better
about yourself, what do you think the result might be?
Did you know this is what many of the most successful people do?
If they have a terrible experience, they simply turn it this way
and that till they find a new aspect to emphasize. One that
makes them feel better about themselves.
Don't believe me? Go read any great person's biography. It's
almost a given that winners only become winners after overcoming
huge difficulties. And they overcome because they keep trying,
keep learning how to control their own thinking until they get
good at it.
So if you've got anything -- ANYTHING AT ALL -- in your past
that drags you down, angers you or depresses you, you have the
right to look at it more closely. You can find more than garbage
in your past. There's gold in your history, too. And all you've
got to do is learn to look for it.
About the author:
Charles Burke is the author of Command More Luck, the
book that shows you why all those things keep happening to you.
Learn why "luck" doesn't work the way you've always been told.
Not even close.
The bad news -- There's no such thing as luck.
The good news -- There's something even better.
Learn how it works at http://www.moreluck.com
Written by: Charles Burke
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