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Setting Rules For Swinging - Part 2
My last article on setting rules went beyond the standard "set rules" admonition and actually delved into some of the thought processes required to set effective rules, and how to get started.
This article is specifically designed for couples who are new to the lifestyle (although veterans may find some interesting ideas too.)
Before we get started, I strongly suggest that you read through part 1 of this series to familiarize yourself with some of the pitfalls, techniques and self-examination required to set rules.
This article assumes that a) you are a couple, b) you are both straight - however with very little imagination or work it can be modified for bi, gay or lesbian couples.
Allow me to set the stage for you:
As a couple you have already worked your way through the first article in this series, and you have a reached a general set of rules that you both feel comfortable with.
Now you are at the point where you have decided to meet another swinging couple, maybe tonight, it will finally happen!
Here is a simple checklist that I want you to go through. Find someplace private to talk, where the children can't overhear, and you won't be disturbed.
Again, and as always, when going through this checklist keep in mind that your significant other's self-esteem, comfort and pleasure need to remain uppermost in your mind.
The way this checklist works is that one of you goes through the list reading off the options, and making notes as the two of you discuss each item.
For him:
Yes No Giving oral sex to other woman
Yes No To Orgasm?
Yes No Safe Sex?
Yes No Receiving oral sex from other woman
Yes No To Orgasm?
Yes No Safe Sex?
Yes No Giving Sensual Massage to other woman
Yes No Receiving Sensual Massage to other woman
Yes No Kissing other woman
Yes No Intercourse with other woman
Yes No Safe Sex?
Yes No Public or private flirtation/Sexy talk with other woman
Yes No Anal sex with other woman
Yes No To Orgasm?
Yes No Safe Sex?
For Her:
Yes No Giving oral sex to other man
Yes No To Orgasm?
Yes No Safe Sex?
Yes No Receiving oral sex from other man
Yes No To Orgasm?
Yes No Safe Sex?
Yes No Giving Sensual Massage to other man
Yes No Receiving Sensual Massage to other man
Yes No Kissing other man
Yes No Intercourse with other man
Yes No Safe Sex?
Yes No Public or private flirtation/Sexy talk with other man
Yes No Anal sex with other man
Yes No To Orgasm?
Yes No Safe Sex?
For Both
Yes No Same Room?
Yes No Same Bed?
Yes No Voyeurism?
Naturally, this is a starting point for discussion. Feel free to add or remove items from this list to suit your interests and needs. As an example, if you are interested in photography, you may want to add questions about taking pictures and videos.
My next article will cover the "debriefing" after you meet your playmates.
Good luck and have fun!
About the Author: NorthIndyCpl is active in the swinger's lifestyle and has written extensively about the lifestyle. Visit their website at http://www.swinglesonline.com
Source: www.isnare.com
Written by: NorthIndy Couple
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