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Designing Relaxing Evenings for You and Your Child
Designing Relaxing Evenings
for You and Your Child
After a long day's work many parents look forward to a
relaxing evening at home. Yet a parent arrives home only to
be bombarded with news broadcasts of their child's events,
demands for dinner, housework that needs to be done,
homework that needs to be assisted with, baths and teeth to
be brushed, laundry to be done, next day events to be
organized--the beat goes on.
Evenings can be the enjoyable time you would like for both
your children and yourself. Preplanning and sticking to a
regular schedule will maximize your time together.
Look at the time you have in the evening and break it up
into increments to cover your evening goals. Here is how one
parent's schedule looks:
* 5:30-6:00 - Pick up kids from Susan's and drive home.
* 6:00-6:30 - We all sit in the kitchen for "Happy Hour" and
talk while one of us prepares dinner.
* 6:30-9:00 - A nice sit down dinner. Afterwards I load the
dishes and kids start their homework from 7:30-9. While kids
work on their homework I catch up on bill-paying, phone
calls, permission slips, etc. If they finish early, we play
a card game together.
* 9:00-9:30 - Kids prepare for the next day while I veg on
the couch.
* 9:30 - Lights out for kids and I curl up with a book.
As you plan your evening schedule, allot time for the
following:
* Your own relaxation
* Time together as a family
* A sit-down dinner when possible (Note: this doesn't mean a
full course meal with a representative from all food groups.
It simply means everyone's bottom on a chair while chewing
through whatever the menu it.
* Whether it be TV dinners, macaroni or cereal is
irrelevant)
* One-on-one time with each child (alternate nights if
necessary)
* Homework
* Next day preparations
Keys for Creating Relaxing Evenings:
When you arrive home from work, take a minute to switch
gears and change into something more comfort-able.
If homework hassles are giving you a headache, create a work
hour. Perhaps after dinner, but before dessert, have one
hour devoted to homework. While children work on their
homework, take time to catch up on your own reading or
paperwork.
Murphy's Law should state "the more you try to relax the
more you will think of that which needs to be done." Make a
habit of keeping to-do lists in your car, at work and at
home. If you think of something that needs to be done, jot
it down so it isn't weighing on your mind.
Get moving! Work off the day's stresses and spend some
quality time with the kids by moving. Enjoy a physical
activity together (outside if possible) like basketball,
kickball or climbing a tree. Just 20 minutes outside after a
long day can help parents and kids unwind, de-stress and
catch up. If the weather won't permit a trip outside, try a
quick game of charades (each family member takes one turn)
or turn on some music and dance.
Avoid the phone. Let the answering machine pick up the calls
at night while you are spending time with your children.
Make a list with your child of ten things you would really
like to do together. Aim to do one every other week.
About the Author
Brook Noel is an international best-selling author and has
written over 10 books. Her newest book The Change Your Life
Challenge: A 70 Day Life Makeover Program for Women has
helped thousands of women improve relationships, finances,
home management, self-esteem, fitness, self-care, stress and
depression you can visit the website at
http://www.changeyourlifechallenge.com/.
Written by: Brook Noel
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